I can get divorced as soon as I find my marriage certificate. I asked my ex for this well over 18 months ago but he said he wouldn’t pay half so I got grumpy. We are only talking about $80 each so, after much eye-rolling and pffffffffting, I decided I could happily wait as I was in no danger of remarrying anytime in the next decade.
So now he is getting serious with his girlfriend and has decided he wants a divorce and would I consider paying half. Yes, there were some delicious moments where I imagined coming back with his previous response of ”I will sign anything you want but I am not paying for any of it”. But luckily all that appeared on the surface was my best demure smile and a slightly smirk-toned “sure”.
There have been many years of bitterness and hurt in me over the way he left me. The loss of him in my life never even got to touch the surface under the weight of how I felt betrayed by his friendship. But as we approach what would have been our seventh anniversary I feel the need to celebrate the wonderful things about him as a way of clearing some of the plaque that has set in as we battle to communicate when we need to.
Things I miss about you:
- Coming down from Saturday morning lie-ins to find a choice of beautifully made organic pasta salads to graze on all weekend.
- Having ‘playstation’ weekends arranged for me where I could go on a mini mind-holiday from the kids, playing some RPG and being brought glasses of bubbly and snacks, and having the children taken care of.
- Many Friday nights, being led to a steaming hot bath, filled with yummy oils and lit by candles. Then coming out to find a path of candles leading upstairs to our room, where a massage was waiting.
- Realising how much you loved me when you brought home a stinking, lice-ridden baby goat in a box that a friend had found by the side of the road just because you knew how much I loved goats (and hadn’t really thought this through). Ok, the goat had to go back, but the feeling of being loved remained long after.
- The number of barbecues you created for us, with wonderful salads and all the trimmings.
- Being proudly presented to everyone as belonging to you.
So, D-day approaches and I will be glad to get it behind me. But the time we spent together shouldn’t be dismissed as without worth. Little A wasn’t the only good thing I got out of our short marriage.